backseatjuan
Banned
Wtf is inactive hiv? and can you get infected from it?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hiv
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
A HIV infection is inactive when there are no viruses circulating in the bodily fluids, but their genetic code is still (and always will be) present in the DNA of some of the person's T-cells. The person isn't contagious and won't develop AIDS, but only while they keep taking their medication.
The risk of HIV transmission by vaginal sex is extremely low - even untreated, it's less than 0.01% - but it's risking a lot, so always wear a condom if you don't know for a fact that the person is clean. Luckily in the developed world, HIV is almost exclusively restricted to gay men and intravenous drug users, and even then, only the minority who are careless (or raped).
The risk of HIV transmission by vaginal sex is extremely low - even untreated, it's less than 0.01% - but it's risking a lot, so always wear a condom if you don't know for a fact that the person is clean. Luckily in the developed world, HIV is almost exclusively restricted to gay men and intravenous drug users, and even then, only the minority who are careless (or raped).
IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
"Pulling out" is effective contraception. The failure rate, assuming you pull out on time, every time, is about 5%, compared to about 3% for condoms.
Then again, the kind of person who would rely on that is probably not the kind of person who can pull out on time, every time. I can, but I still use condoms with people I don't trust because pulling out doesn't protect you against STIs.
Then again, the kind of person who would rely on that is probably not the kind of person who can pull out on time, every time. I can, but I still use condoms with people I don't trust because pulling out doesn't protect you against STIs.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.