Carmina Gadelica
Senior Don Juan
For those of you who are not getting the results you want, invest in yourself. Hire a personal trainer who looks the way you want to look!
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Hire a professional personal trainer.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
BackInTheGame78
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Most personal trainers are trash. All you need to do is look at how many people hire them that look no different than they did before.
Their goals are not to get results, their goal is to ensure repeat business and pushing a person hard enough that gets results will make most of them quit.
Also based on my conversations with enough, I lack respect for most of them due to not understanding how the body actually operates and how the full picture of training, nutrition and rest/sleep, etc go together.
Their goals are not to get results, their goal is to ensure repeat business and pushing a person hard enough that gets results will make most of them quit.
Also based on my conversations with enough, I lack respect for most of them due to not understanding how the body actually operates and how the full picture of training, nutrition and rest/sleep, etc go together.
plumber
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Most of the the results will come from effort and dedication. If you train in a gym, and you go several times or more a week, there is lots of free advice. Others that see you working hard will tell you how to do it if your willing to listen. As with all things listen to advice from those that have what you want. diet and health are important, some guys will train very hard and have not much improvement.
Health, vitamins, diet, hormones are all important.
Health, vitamins, diet, hormones are all important.
Carmina Gadelica
Senior Don Juan
True, but if you don’t have an experienced work out partner to teach you and you don’t understand basic exercise science and nutrition, then find a personal trainer with the body that you want.
Until you can work out on your own.
RoadKing_Rabbit
Senior Don Juan
Precisely why I quit almost as soon as I started. I got people results but didn't sell the supplements or lengthy 'packages' that frankly are not needed. If P.T. were more regulated and covered by health insurance/recognized officially within the allied healthcare continuum, it'd be different. But you're bang on. I can't count the number of people I've helped like exercise again after a trainer told them to "push through" lower back pain.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Carmina Gadelica
Senior Don Juan
I worked several years as a PT so I can relate. I just suggested this because there isn’t really an alternative that’s very feasible for an out of shape computer nerd who has no friends to work out with and has no knowledge of exercise science or nutrition.
Now I am studyjng to get more PT Certifications in order to maximize my work outs.
Carmina Gadelica
Senior Don Juan
Deciding what types of work outs you want to do and dividing them between different days, then doing which work outs and muscle groups on what days for how many sets and reps.
Most newbies have no idea what most machines do.
A month should be enough to learn the basics.
RoadKing_Rabbit
Senior Don Juan
I was certified through ACE and NASM. The "expensive ones." NSCA is good as are a few others, but all in all, I don't miss it one bit. Currently, I'm constructing a martial arts curriculum and hope to teach it as a side gig. I'd like to be a trainer, but I don't like the effort/payout ratio. You may be able to find some older textbooks. The most solid and useful information really hasn't changed all that much because our bodies still work the same way.
Hamurabimbi
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A personal trainer is fine. Particularly if you are starting. A good personal trainer will work with you to ensure you are using proper form and don't get injured.
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With the wealth of information that is available out there fro free, why in the world would want to hire a professional trainer?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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some are introverted. not as a fault, but as a fact. trainer can get them engaged.
Carmina Gadelica
Senior Don Juan
Complete beginners can’t properly utilize this information.
Either misinterpreting it or using it wrongly or at wrong times and such.
RoadKing_Rabbit
Senior Don Juan
Unless the goals are more specific than "Look better naked," "Be stronger," "Be bigger and more defined," or "Lose weight," almost any exercise routine will hit every single one of those. However, if I wanted to weigh 195 lean with <10% body fat, I'd hire a trainer. AND hate my life along with said trainer.
FlexpertHamilton
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what does that have to do with anything? i'm introverted as they come and i never found that to really be a factor. i would simply watch videos on youtube to learn exercises and just figure them out on my own over time. its not very complicated. granted i do see a lot of people doing exercises in bad form but that's because most people ego lift.
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for you its not a factor. maybe for others.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.