Carmina Gadelica
Senior Don Juan
For those of you who are not getting the results you want, invest in yourself. Hire a personal trainer who looks the way you want to look!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
True, but if you don’t have an experienced work out partner to teach you and you don’t understand basic exercise science and nutrition, then find a personal trainer with the body that you want.Most personal trainers are trash. All you need to do is look at how many people hire them that look no different than they did before.
Their goals are not to get results, their goal is to ensure repeat business and pushing a person hard enough that gets results will make most of them quit.
Also based on my conversations with enough, I lack respect for most of them due to not understanding how the body actually operates and how the full picture of training, nutrition and rest/sleep, etc go together.
Most personal trainers are trash. All you need to do is look at how many people hire them that look no different than they did before.
Their goals are not to get results, their goal is to ensure repeat business and pushing a person hard enough that gets results will make most of them quit.
Also based on my conversations with enough, I lack respect for most of them due to not understanding how the body actually operates and how the full picture of training, nutrition and rest/sleep, etc go together.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I worked several years as a PT so I can relate. I just suggested this because there isn’t really an alternative that’s very feasible for an out of shape computer nerd who has no friends to work out with and has no knowledge of exercise science or nutrition.Precisely why I quit almost as soon as I started. I got people results but didn't sell the supplements or lengthy 'packages' that frankly are not needed. If P.T. were more regulated and covered by health insurance/recognized officially within the allied healthcare continuum, it'd be different. But you're bang on. I can't count the number of people I've helped like exercise again after a trainer told them to "push through" lower back pain.
Deciding what types of work outs you want to do and dividing them between different days, then doing which work outs and muscle groups on what days for how many sets and reps.Most of the the results will come from effort and dedication. If you train in a gym, and you go several times or more a week, there is lots of free advice. Others that see you working hard will tell you how to do it if your willing to listen. As with all things listen to advice from those that have what you want. diet and health are important, some guys will train very hard and have not much improvement.
Health, vitamins, diet, hormones are all important.
With the wealth of information that is available out there fro free, why in the world would want to hire a professional trainer?For those of you who are not getting the results you want, invest in yourself. Hire a personal trainer who looks the way you want to look!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
some are introverted. not as a fault, but as a fact. trainer can get them engaged.With the wealth of information that is available out there fro free, why in the world would want to hire a professional trainer?
Complete beginners can’t properly utilize this information.With the wealth of information that is available out there fro free, why in the world would want to hire a professional trainer?
Unless the goals are more specific than "Look better naked," "Be stronger," "Be bigger and more defined," or "Lose weight," almost any exercise routine will hit every single one of those. However, if I wanted to weigh 195 lean with <10% body fat, I'd hire a trainer. AND hate my life along with said trainer.Complete beginners can’t properly utilize this information.
Either misinterpreting it or using it wrongly or at wrong times and such.
what does that have to do with anything? i'm introverted as they come and i never found that to really be a factor. i would simply watch videos on youtube to learn exercises and just figure them out on my own over time. its not very complicated. granted i do see a lot of people doing exercises in bad form but that's because most people ego lift.some are introverted. not as a fault, but as a fact. trainer can get them engaged.
for you its not a factor. maybe for others.what does that have to do with anything? i'm introverted as they come and i never found that to really be a factor. i would simply watch videos on youtube to learn exercises and just figure them out on my own over time. its not very complicated. granted i do see a lot of people doing exercises in bad form but that's because most people ego lift.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.