"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Highscool relationships and cheating.

Stingers

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Well recently i got into a relationship with a girl she is currently a freshman, i am a sophomore. Her mother is an over protective B**** and has limits on the phone such as 9 and 10 on the weekends. She periodically reads her messages and when i make a sexual comment her mom texts me with some bullshxt. I can only get some ass kino when im with her but even then she is shy and doesnt want anymore than that. On the other there is this girl that wants the D, and she really wants it. Shes not the dating type but more of a one night stand. im not sure if i want to get some side action with her and date her for a little while longer or if i should just cut the girl im dating off while im at it. help me pick you DJ's :D

*edit* i forgot to mention this girl would be real good LTR material if it werent for her parents.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NorwegianDJ

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Do what makes you happy. If you dislike the relationship, then break it off with her first.
 

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Stingers said:
I forgot to mention this girl would be real good LTR material if it weren't for her parents.
Operative word being "if".
 

LearningSlowly

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Who I was in high school, I would have gone for the sex right away.

Who I am now, I would pick based on the quality of the person, and the potential for a meaningful relationship.

Which one are you?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Approach anxiety can be more easily overcome with thoughts, but to try to do the same with closing presents three problems, You feel invested in the girl from the effort of approach, you can't feel kiss-vibes while in your head and your head is to crowded from thinking for so long....
 

MrNiceGuy23

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You're a sophomore in high school, you're dating a freshman, and you're whining that her mother is being protective of her daughter when you make a sexual comment to her daughter? She's 14 / 15 years old.

Personally I'm amazing with the level of sexuality or the perceived level of sexuality between teenagers nowadays, and I'm an old guy (21 years old). It was almost unheard of for people to be having sex when I was in 7th-10th grade or so unless the girl was a big slut, but now it seems like 13 and 14 year olds are getting wasted and boned out by some 14 year old kid.
 

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MrNiceGuy23 said:
You're a sophomore in high school, you're dating a freshman, and you're whining that her mother is being protective of her daughter when you make a sexual comment to her daughter? She's 14 / 15 years old.

Personally I'm amazing with the level of sexuality or the perceived level of sexuality between teenagers nowadays, and I'm an old guy (21 years old). It was almost unheard of for people to be having sex when I was in 7th-10th grade or so unless the girl was a big slut, but now it seems like 13 and 14 year olds are getting wasted and boned out by some 14 year old kid.

Well said ... lol .. i fear for my daughter who is 14. Shes got *****isitis almost 24/7 so she puts out alot of **** tests on guys that are interested in her and they all fail (i monitor the internet activity but pick my battles). SHe told me that if they dont got the guts to kill deer or wildlife .. and cant out match her physical strength (shes in martial arts) and be able to put her in her place .. and deal with her *****yness and hold an intelligent convo... she wont be dating them.

I say .. GREAT! haha
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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