LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
AlexLefty said:Can't wait for week 3, whoever the leader is.
I need to get out of the house today and tomorrow and get those approaches.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
AlexLefty said:Can't wait for week 3, whoever the leader is.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Who's violet? I want to know the details of how you did this!NorwegianDJ said:Accounting for today and yesterday, I've got 10/5. I'll make it 3/3, since it was groups and 1+1 chick. I'll take Violet's # and have that count for the # part![]()
JournalAlexLefty said:Who's violet? I want to know the details of how you did this!
Don't worry. I've got something in mind that may get you some numbers next week. Will post tonight.BPH said:So don't make next week's challenge something like "go on a date with the girl you got the number of".
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hey man, have you done week 1? After week 1, you should feel more comfortable approaching random girls. I personally do! I used to be terrified. I also have days like that where I go to the mall and I don't do any approaches and I just walk around. At least you were on the field and you weren't lazy. That's good. I have a friend with me doing this, and it REALLY helps I think. Just make sure you don't pick a negative friend with you, because you're better alone than with a negative friend sometimes.Peterbror said:Wow, i have to say that this was way harder than i though it was going to be. I am not going to make any excuses for this and just say that this week was a disappointed for me. I didnt geta single approach because i was just way too scared to do it. My approach anxiety is controlling me way to much for me to let it win so this week i will not try, but succeed in getting week two done for real.
/ Peterbror
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I did week 1 and i felt that it was a success but i didnt have a motive when talking to them just thought of having a conversation. It is when you have to think to get the number i get really anxious and my head just says No when i see a girl i want to approach. But this week im trying again with some support from my brother.Mindgamez said:Hey man, have you done week 1? After week 1, you should feel more comfortable approaching random girls. I personally do! I used to be terrified. I also have days like that where I go to the mall and I don't do any approaches and I just walk around. At least you were on the field and you weren't lazy. That's good. I have a friend with me doing this, and it REALLY helps I think. Just make sure you don't pick a negative friend with you, because you're better alone than with a negative friend sometimes.
Learning, c'mon you can do this yo.