LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
AlexLefty said:
It'll be fun.I need to get out of the house today and tomorrow and get those approaches.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
High School Don Juan Bootcamp Week Two: The Knight's Quest.
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It'll be fun.I need to get out of the house today and tomorrow and get those approaches.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
I never really have the chance to approach girls. But I'm thinking about suicide approaches on Monday. Saturday, I ain't going anywhere, and I got church on Sundays. Might consider suicide approaches at church though, even though they won't go anywhere for sure.
I recommend suicide approaches to everyone, at least for your first approach, they're kind of like your warm up set. If you're feeling AA, the best thing to do is to get rid of it right away by saying the stupidest thing possible. For example, going up to a girl and in a retarded voice saying "Excuse me, hey! hey! Hi... BlahLpufffrtblahduhwtgrangangalazupwratsulooouupppeyystoouu" and then just staring at them until they walk away. That's how you conquer that initial AA.
NorwegianDJ
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Accounting for today and yesterday, I've got 10/5. I'll make it 3/3, since it was groups and 1+1 chick. I'll take Violet's # and have that count for the # part
As for the side challenge, my hair is longer than it's ever been (maybe it was longer in 5th grade). Looks better than ever! And hey, I cut my nails and worked out.
As for the side challenge, my hair is longer than it's ever been (maybe it was longer in 5th grade). Looks better than ever! And hey, I cut my nails and worked out.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Who's violet? I want to know the details of how you did this!NorwegianDJ said:Accounting for today and yesterday, I've got 10/5. I'll make it 3/3, since it was groups and 1+1 chick. I'll take Violet's # and have that count for the # part
BTW you slowly you should post week 3 challenge later tonight.
NorwegianDJ
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BPH
Master Don Juan
Done the approaches. No numbers. Approaching groups is devastating, but I did it anyway just to knock them out. Might get a number tomorrow at school, but if I do it probably won't be a chick I'm interested in.
So don't make next week's challenge something like "go on a date with the girl you got the number of".
So don't make next week's challenge something like "go on a date with the girl you got the number of".
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Don't worry. I've got something in mind that may get you some numbers next week. Will post tonight.BPH said:
The Libertine
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I didn't count my approaches but I think I've done more than 7. I haven't gotten a number though,which was the point of the challenge. But I had e pretty busy week and I didn't see any of the girls I thought look cute. Actually if facebook closes work I've been added by 3 girls after approaching them.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
I did an approach today, and got a name down!
Jack Wealthy
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f-yuh
Dud all fyve appraches in 40 minutes. 2 not hot but already talked to them. Went for one # got boyfriendededed. Yar I'm garte.
Dud all fyve appraches in 40 minutes. 2 not hot but already talked to them. Went for one # got boyfriendededed. Yar I'm garte.
Wow, i have to say that this was way harder than i though it was going to be. I am not going to make any excuses for this and just say that this week was a disappointed for me. I didnt geta single approach because i was just way too scared to do it. My approach anxiety is controlling me way to much for me to let it win so this week i will not try, but succeed in getting week two done for real.
/ Peterbror
/ Peterbror
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Got a couple approaches. One more today. No number attempts, so I technically failed this. It's all in my journal.
Hey man, have you done week 1? After week 1, you should feel more comfortable approaching random girls. I personally do! I used to be terrified. I also have days like that where I go to the mall and I don't do any approaches and I just walk around. At least you were on the field and you weren't lazy. That's good. I have a friend with me doing this, and it REALLY helps I think. Just make sure you don't pick a negative friend with you, because you're better alone than with a negative friend sometimes.Peterbror said:
Learning, c'mon you can do this yo.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
one botched approach. 2/3.
I did week 1 and i felt that it was a success but i didnt have a motive when talking to them just thought of having a conversation. It is when you have to think to get the number i get really anxious and my head just says No when i see a girl i want to approach. But this week im trying again with some support from my brother.Mindgamez said:
Thanks for the encourage
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
3/3. But Since I got no number, I must go do 2 more.