"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I was out for a drink last night. This girl made a reference to spinning plates. She certainly didn't hear it from me.

Are those your PATENTED WORDS?

If they are, CONGRATs.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If so, does someone know how to update Wiki to include this?
 

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I've used that reference several
times with people not privy to this
community or forum and they seemed
to know exactly what I meant :up:
 

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Just so you know, they also used that term in Sex and the City, do I don't think it's patent RT.

However, plate theory is probably one of his ideas.
 

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There are very few original ideas in this world.

BUT, plate theory, as articulated by RT, is genuine i believe.

I too have referenced spinning plates around others not privy to the DJ community and they knew the general idea of what i was refering to.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Aah, its becoming mainstream. We maybe able to change the world after all.

Good Job Rollo!
 

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Spinning Plates isn't a new term.

Plate theory is my own. If your new girlfriends could tell you why it improves confidence then I'd take credit. Something tells me they couldn't.
 

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I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
You're actually not dissing him in any way. No one disputes the concept has been around for ages. What we're (now) discussing is if the term Plate Theory, as used in this way, is his own.
 

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I think Rollo explained the real reasons behind spinning plates. I had heard variations of it before I came here and almost all of them said something to the extent of, "go after as many girls as possible". None of them really explained the logic behind spinning plates. After reading Rollo's reasoning, it made perfect sense.

Rollo deserves just as much credit for explaining the plate theory.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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In Plate Theory all I've done is pull apart the engine and put it back together again. It's very simplistic to just say Spin More Plates, but to know why it's important takes going into some detail.
 

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I have given advice to people and have communicated some of the ideas provided by Rollo and others.

I have my Blitz State Theorem and I am sure people have gotten ideas from it (in fact, my theorem is a compilation of personal experience and also other people's ideas).

Having said that...years ago, I used to post in a popular Magazine's forum. One of the caveats they had in that Forum was that whatever you posted did not give you "copyrights". In another words, they could use it in their articles. I found a couple of articles in the hard copy version of the magazine that literally used a couple of my ideas. To the point that I was convinced the writer read some of my posts. I didn't care.
 

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It's an old form of entertainment, similar to juggling, and an expression I have been hearing for years pretty much meaning the same thing as "multitasking".
 

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I thought Plate theory had something to do with tectonic movement of the earth's crust.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
It is in common use in many disciplines. The economists tell us to "diversify our investments".
An engineering technique is "load sharing " in which several structures are employed to stabilize a load in order to provide strength and equilibrium. Same principles as PT.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jophil28 said:
It is in common use in many disciplines.

probably because alpha dudes have been diversifying their little tadpole investments since before language was invented.

I think the story of johnny appleseed may be a metaphor for fukking the **** out of as many women as possible
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
I think the story of johnny appleseed may be a metaphor for fukking the **** out of as many women as possible
Plate Theory is NOT about ƒucking as many women as possible. It's about the confidence that's derived from recognizing real options. Hitting it with multiple women can be a bonus, but it's not the end to the means.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Plate Theory is NOT about ƒucking as many women as possible. It's about the confidence that's derived from recognizing real options. Hitting it with multiple women can be a bonus, but it's not the end to the means.

The problem I have with it is if you really have options how were you able to successfully obtained those options without confidence in the first place. It just seems like a chicken and egg dilemma, where you see the effect and attribute it as the cause. So by reason you don't need multiple plates to have confidence, right? I think that's where me and Str8up stand on it. Where is that guy at anyway? He's propbably fcloseing girls and everyone ran him off so we're not going to hear about it.
 

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There are different levels of confidence. There's confidence that comes from knowing that you have the abilities to accomplish your goals, and there's confidence that comes from your successes.
 

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ketostix said:
The problem I have with it is if you really have options how were you able to successfully obtained those options without confidence in the first place. It just seems like a chicken and egg dilemma, where you see the effect and attribute it as the cause. So by reason you don't need multiple plates to have confidence, right? I think that's where me and Str8up stand on it. Where is that guy at anyway? He's propbably fcloseing girls and everyone ran him off so we're not going to hear about it.
I couldn't speak from personal experience with regard to Plate Theory progression. I have always had a natural talent.

However in other areas of life, "FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT" has worked wonders. As I expressed in another thread, when repeated behavior PRODUCES results, then true CONFIDENCE is realized.

In this sense, plate theory is essential to the novice. Its a numbers game. With tenacious application, the novice will eventually reap the benefits of RESULTS which will DEVELOP into a natural CONFIDENCE.

The problem as I previously addressed is that theories, ideas and concepts will not help the individual who does not apply it tenaciously. Perserverance of application is necessary for any theory to actualize.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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