Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You're actually not dissing him in any way. No one disputes the concept has been around for ages. What we're (now) discussing is if the term Plate Theory, as used in this way, is his own.taiyuu_otoko said:I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It is in common use in many disciplines. The economists tell us to "diversify our investments".taiyuu_otoko said:I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jophil28 said:It is in common use in many disciplines.
Plate Theory is NOT about ƒucking as many women as possible. It's about the confidence that's derived from recognizing real options. Hitting it with multiple women can be a bonus, but it's not the end to the means.taiyuu_otoko said:I think the story of johnny appleseed may be a metaphor for fukking the **** out of as many women as possible
Rollo Tomassi said:Plate Theory is NOT about ƒucking as many women as possible. It's about the confidence that's derived from recognizing real options. Hitting it with multiple women can be a bonus, but it's not the end to the means.
I couldn't speak from personal experience with regard to Plate Theory progression. I have always had a natural talent.ketostix said:The problem I have with it is if you really have options how were you able to successfully obtained those options without confidence in the first place. It just seems like a chicken and egg dilemma, where you see the effect and attribute it as the cause. So by reason you don't need multiple plates to have confidence, right? I think that's where me and Str8up stand on it. Where is that guy at anyway? He's propbably fcloseing girls and everyone ran him off so we're not going to hear about it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.