Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You're actually not dissing him in any way. No one disputes the concept has been around for ages. What we're (now) discussing is if the term Plate Theory, as used in this way, is his own.taiyuu_otoko said:I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It is in common use in many disciplines. The economists tell us to "diversify our investments".taiyuu_otoko said:I heard about "Plate theory" for the first time about 10 years ago, by a differnent name from a different guru. No diss to Rollo, but I think its a fairly common sense principle.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
jophil28 said:It is in common use in many disciplines.
Plate Theory is NOT about ƒucking as many women as possible. It's about the confidence that's derived from recognizing real options. Hitting it with multiple women can be a bonus, but it's not the end to the means.taiyuu_otoko said:I think the story of johnny appleseed may be a metaphor for fukking the **** out of as many women as possible
Rollo Tomassi said:Plate Theory is NOT about ƒucking as many women as possible. It's about the confidence that's derived from recognizing real options. Hitting it with multiple women can be a bonus, but it's not the end to the means.
I couldn't speak from personal experience with regard to Plate Theory progression. I have always had a natural talent.ketostix said:The problem I have with it is if you really have options how were you able to successfully obtained those options without confidence in the first place. It just seems like a chicken and egg dilemma, where you see the effect and attribute it as the cause. So by reason you don't need multiple plates to have confidence, right? I think that's where me and Str8up stand on it. Where is that guy at anyway? He's propbably fcloseing girls and everyone ran him off so we're not going to hear about it.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.