"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hey I'm new and already have a question...

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El Duderino

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I'm still very new to the whole Don Juan thing and I spent my first three years of high school pretty much just being timid in front of people I didn't know and never approached an unfamiliar girl to initiate conversation or even get her number...I've made it my new years resolution to change everything because this is my last year to salvage at least something good from high school...I found this site and have been reading all the articles carefully

today I decided to try out my luck...I approached a girl in one of my classes who I had been admiring from afar since September...she was wearing one of those custom jerseys that have your name on the back, and coincidentally her name is foreign so I asked her how to pronounce it as a way of making conversation...I was smiling, and I tried to make eye contact the whole time but she never looked directly at me once, barely even turning her head...she answered, and after I told her its a pretty name she didn't even look at me and passed by...it was all pretty awkward but she seems like an ice queen

what the hell do I do now? move on to other girls or try again with her? I don't want to come off as annoying :confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Take the hint. She's not interested. But good job for making an attempt. By the way, don't ever "admire a girl from afar." This is stalkerish and gets you nowhere.
 
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Need-2-B-Pimpin

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Yeah man, good effort, good courage. Now ya gotta fine-tune your approach, etc. Read into some of Sammo's self-improvement stuff
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Zendryn
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I agree. Easier said then done at your stage but... The only cure is more chicks!
 
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