"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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chazzz

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theres a woman who I have become good friends with (yep we have all herd this before) shes beautiful and has it all but this summer she was to be wed. and found out her to be hubby was sleeping with his x and over the course of the last few months have developed feelings for her beyond "friends" but to her thats all I am, and I dont mind that, I happen to think that staying her friend that there is a very good chance for me to get with her I do know that it is too soon for that to happen but none the less think it could down the road. she does know that I am attracted to her and that I like her alot. what would you do any help is appreciated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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thefonz

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hmmm, quite an unusual situation here.......i personally would send her some flowers in the mail....better yet, i would deliver them in person....then i'd write a note asking her out to dinner with me sometime at the fanciest restraunt i can afford.
 

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did that

we have gone to lunch at a nice resterant as well as a pro football game (she knows football big plus) she split the cost of the game $200 a piece for the seats but the friend thing is still there what do I do?
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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My heart bleeds for you, oh chump of frustrating averageness.

Get a pair, or better yet a girlfriend. Get her thinking about you in more than a platonic sense and casually let her know you're a sexual animal as well.

Above all, and if you can do nothing else... READ THE BIBLE!!!!

-Cyrano
 

DonJuanQuixote

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Originally posted by thefonz
hmmm, quite an unusual situation here.......i personally would send her some flowers in the mail....better yet, i would deliver them in person....then i'd write a note asking her out to dinner with me sometime at the fanciest restraunt i can afford.
I'm sorry you didnt get the sarcasm in that post!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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