Poonani Maker
Master Don Juan
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What if women just wanna use me for my beefcake face and body? It happens, you know, and I really don't even have to say much of anything.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's hard to make it a process. People want instant results, no waiting period to sleep with girls. That's why porn is so gratifying. Quick, to the point, and the girl does EXACTLY as we want her too.ChrizZ said:Here are some examples.
You get to know the people that work in the club. (Social proof goes up) - OK, easier said than done.
Bring friends with you. Female friends are even better and let everyone see that you are the leader by walking in front of them. - I don't get this one. If you bring and have female friends with you, aren't you bordering on AFC? Shouldn't you be sleeping with them?
Get clothes that make you stand out in a good way (Peacocking if you want to use PUA terms) - GOOD
You are the social guy in the room. The guy that talks to everybody and has interesting things to say that hook people which makes them want to be around you. -GOOD. Although I don't know if James Bond is like this so is can be contradictory at times.
Be the guy that especially girls want to hang around with. - hang around with or sleep with?
Be very well groomed. - GOOD
Have an identity and let people know. Make them know that you are a doctor or a musician or whatever. - VERY GOOD
The right bodylanguage and verbal communication skills is very important. - GOOD
You convey in stories that you are the sh!t in a non bragging way to the people in the club. - GOOD
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Pick up is a process.
You can't just walk into a club and people will be magically drawn to you.
You have to raise your value more and more while time goes by.
Have you seen the show, Millionaire Matchmaker? Being wealthy, in and of itself doesn’t get women falling for you.ChrizZ said:Imagine a guy as good looking as Brad Pitt going to a bar. Women will check him out. The hot females will also notice that and will feel attraction, too.
Now imagine a guy walking in with an Armani suit, ten HB 10s walking behind him and he is waving around with 100$ bills.
Women will feel WAY more attraction for that guy than for the Brad Pitt looking guy because they want to suck value from him and make their lives better.
The root of "value" is masculinity!! Get to the root of the matter, if you want a solution!!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.