Poonani Maker
Master Don Juan
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What if women just wanna use me for my beefcake face and body? It happens, you know, and I really don't even have to say much of anything.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's hard to make it a process. People want instant results, no waiting period to sleep with girls. That's why porn is so gratifying. Quick, to the point, and the girl does EXACTLY as we want her too.ChrizZ said:Here are some examples.
You get to know the people that work in the club. (Social proof goes up) - OK, easier said than done.
Bring friends with you. Female friends are even better and let everyone see that you are the leader by walking in front of them. - I don't get this one. If you bring and have female friends with you, aren't you bordering on AFC? Shouldn't you be sleeping with them?
Get clothes that make you stand out in a good way (Peacocking if you want to use PUA terms) - GOOD
You are the social guy in the room. The guy that talks to everybody and has interesting things to say that hook people which makes them want to be around you. -GOOD. Although I don't know if James Bond is like this so is can be contradictory at times.
Be the guy that especially girls want to hang around with. - hang around with or sleep with?
Be very well groomed. - GOOD
Have an identity and let people know. Make them know that you are a doctor or a musician or whatever. - VERY GOOD
The right bodylanguage and verbal communication skills is very important. - GOOD
You convey in stories that you are the sh!t in a non bragging way to the people in the club. - GOOD
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Pick up is a process.
You can't just walk into a club and people will be magically drawn to you.
You have to raise your value more and more while time goes by.
Have you seen the show, Millionaire Matchmaker? Being wealthy, in and of itself doesn’t get women falling for you.ChrizZ said:Imagine a guy as good looking as Brad Pitt going to a bar. Women will check him out. The hot females will also notice that and will feel attraction, too.
Now imagine a guy walking in with an Armani suit, ten HB 10s walking behind him and he is waving around with 100$ bills.
Women will feel WAY more attraction for that guy than for the Brad Pitt looking guy because they want to suck value from him and make their lives better.
The root of "value" is masculinity!! Get to the root of the matter, if you want a solution!!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.