You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ignorance is blizz eh?Originally posted by b's nuts
You have to be kidding. Depeshe Mode, J-Lo Glasses, kid walks like he has down syndrome. Props for having the balls to make the video, cuz thats some of the gayest sh*t i have ever seen.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.Originally posted by Big-J
I know it's fake and exaggerated (maybe over exaggerated), I think 90% of you guys missed something that's pretty important here.
Where you guys were worrying about how he looked to you/other people (saying you'd be like X, instead of how he was because you were afraid you'd look dumb), he was busy NOT GIVING A SH*T and doing what he wanted. Did he look like a dork? Well seeing the reactions here, yes he did. Was he worried about what everyone else thought? Obviously not..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That's understood. I understand what he was doing with his body language completely. But the reason we are noticing stuff is because some of us can intuit and sense he's really not what he's trying to be. It is human nature to see when one is stepping out of the pecking order where we know they should be. Some of us get an aggressive feeling inside to place this person where he deserves to be.Originally posted by Ebach
Stupid dorks! Of couse he's conscience. He's trying to exhagarate the body language that alphas portray naturally. When it's natural, you don't look like a dork.
Funny thing is, people critisize him but they don't learn anything from him. The way he stands at the door, the way he sits at a table. Of course that's exhagaratted. I don't sit with my hand on the chair unless the place I'm at is a chill place. Sometimes I do it at clubs when I feel like chilling. I don't sit like that just to show how cool I am. It's just comfortable to spread yourself all over the place when you wanna chill. When your intentions are not to be tough you portray alphaness naturally.
He was worried about getting the message across. Therefore he was conscience the whole time trying too hard to come off across one way. The message none the less is there, doesn't take a genious to see. Then again, everyone's too busy nitpicking to see any kind of message.Originally posted by Raven125
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.