Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ignorance is blizz eh?Originally posted by b's nuts
You have to be kidding. Depeshe Mode, J-Lo Glasses, kid walks like he has down syndrome. Props for having the balls to make the video, cuz thats some of the gayest sh*t i have ever seen.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.Originally posted by Big-J
I know it's fake and exaggerated (maybe over exaggerated), I think 90% of you guys missed something that's pretty important here.
Where you guys were worrying about how he looked to you/other people (saying you'd be like X, instead of how he was because you were afraid you'd look dumb), he was busy NOT GIVING A SH*T and doing what he wanted. Did he look like a dork? Well seeing the reactions here, yes he did. Was he worried about what everyone else thought? Obviously not..
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's understood. I understand what he was doing with his body language completely. But the reason we are noticing stuff is because some of us can intuit and sense he's really not what he's trying to be. It is human nature to see when one is stepping out of the pecking order where we know they should be. Some of us get an aggressive feeling inside to place this person where he deserves to be.Originally posted by Ebach
Stupid dorks! Of couse he's conscience. He's trying to exhagarate the body language that alphas portray naturally. When it's natural, you don't look like a dork.
Funny thing is, people critisize him but they don't learn anything from him. The way he stands at the door, the way he sits at a table. Of course that's exhagaratted. I don't sit with my hand on the chair unless the place I'm at is a chill place. Sometimes I do it at clubs when I feel like chilling. I don't sit like that just to show how cool I am. It's just comfortable to spread yourself all over the place when you wanna chill. When your intentions are not to be tough you portray alphaness naturally.
He was worried about getting the message across. Therefore he was conscience the whole time trying too hard to come off across one way. The message none the less is there, doesn't take a genious to see. Then again, everyone's too busy nitpicking to see any kind of message.Originally posted by Raven125
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.