You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ignorance is blizz eh?Originally posted by b's nuts
You have to be kidding. Depeshe Mode, J-Lo Glasses, kid walks like he has down syndrome. Props for having the balls to make the video, cuz thats some of the gayest sh*t i have ever seen.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.Originally posted by Big-J
I know it's fake and exaggerated (maybe over exaggerated), I think 90% of you guys missed something that's pretty important here.
Where you guys were worrying about how he looked to you/other people (saying you'd be like X, instead of how he was because you were afraid you'd look dumb), he was busy NOT GIVING A SH*T and doing what he wanted. Did he look like a dork? Well seeing the reactions here, yes he did. Was he worried about what everyone else thought? Obviously not..
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's understood. I understand what he was doing with his body language completely. But the reason we are noticing stuff is because some of us can intuit and sense he's really not what he's trying to be. It is human nature to see when one is stepping out of the pecking order where we know they should be. Some of us get an aggressive feeling inside to place this person where he deserves to be.Originally posted by Ebach
Stupid dorks! Of couse he's conscience. He's trying to exhagarate the body language that alphas portray naturally. When it's natural, you don't look like a dork.
Funny thing is, people critisize him but they don't learn anything from him. The way he stands at the door, the way he sits at a table. Of course that's exhagaratted. I don't sit with my hand on the chair unless the place I'm at is a chill place. Sometimes I do it at clubs when I feel like chilling. I don't sit like that just to show how cool I am. It's just comfortable to spread yourself all over the place when you wanna chill. When your intentions are not to be tough you portray alphaness naturally.
He was worried about getting the message across. Therefore he was conscience the whole time trying too hard to come off across one way. The message none the less is there, doesn't take a genious to see. Then again, everyone's too busy nitpicking to see any kind of message.Originally posted by Raven125
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.