You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ignorance is blizz eh?Originally posted by b's nuts
You have to be kidding. Depeshe Mode, J-Lo Glasses, kid walks like he has down syndrome. Props for having the balls to make the video, cuz thats some of the gayest sh*t i have ever seen.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.Originally posted by Big-J
I know it's fake and exaggerated (maybe over exaggerated), I think 90% of you guys missed something that's pretty important here.
Where you guys were worrying about how he looked to you/other people (saying you'd be like X, instead of how he was because you were afraid you'd look dumb), he was busy NOT GIVING A SH*T and doing what he wanted. Did he look like a dork? Well seeing the reactions here, yes he did. Was he worried about what everyone else thought? Obviously not..
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That's understood. I understand what he was doing with his body language completely. But the reason we are noticing stuff is because some of us can intuit and sense he's really not what he's trying to be. It is human nature to see when one is stepping out of the pecking order where we know they should be. Some of us get an aggressive feeling inside to place this person where he deserves to be.Originally posted by Ebach
Stupid dorks! Of couse he's conscience. He's trying to exhagarate the body language that alphas portray naturally. When it's natural, you don't look like a dork.
Funny thing is, people critisize him but they don't learn anything from him. The way he stands at the door, the way he sits at a table. Of course that's exhagaratted. I don't sit with my hand on the chair unless the place I'm at is a chill place. Sometimes I do it at clubs when I feel like chilling. I don't sit like that just to show how cool I am. It's just comfortable to spread yourself all over the place when you wanna chill. When your intentions are not to be tough you portray alphaness naturally.
He was worried about getting the message across. Therefore he was conscience the whole time trying too hard to come off across one way. The message none the less is there, doesn't take a genious to see. Then again, everyone's too busy nitpicking to see any kind of message.Originally posted by Raven125
Of course he was worried about what everyone else thought... Did you watch the video? The guy was exaggerating everything. He was so self concious with every move that he came off as unconfident. Do you know any confident guys that actaully carry themselves in the manner that this guy did in the video? His moves wouldn't have been so fake and jackass stiff if he didnt care what others thought.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.