SW15
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You have a good mindset on that.
Outcome dependence is a major problem for a lot of men. Also, rejection is personal and it hurts.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mcfusion31
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Rejection doesn't hurt. It's the attachment to outcome. Listening to Dr. Robert Glover's book, I found his recommendation on gratitude journaling to be particularly helpful. It has helped me transition from a state of scarcity to one of optimism, embracing abundance. I have a bad mental attitude toward doing social activities alone because I'm used to doing things with friends but they're married and my social circle diminished because of it. My inner monologue has been bitching at me to go out.
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Start by walking out your front door