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You have a good mindset on that.
Outcome dependence is a major problem for a lot of men. Also, rejection is personal and it hurts.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mcfusion31
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Rejection doesn't hurt. It's the attachment to outcome. Listening to Dr. Robert Glover's book, I found his recommendation on gratitude journaling to be particularly helpful. It has helped me transition from a state of scarcity to one of optimism, embracing abundance. I have a bad mental attitude toward doing social activities alone because I'm used to doing things with friends but they're married and my social circle diminished because of it. My inner monologue has been bitching at me to go out.
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Start by walking out your front door