She's being cold so I searched here and in google what to do. Then they all told me not to be too available for her, treat her worthless but make her feel special. So here's the thing, I continued replying on her but I act like Im busy. It's like I will reply in her every msg for 15mins. But because of that she got mad at me and now she doesnt replied any of my messages but have seen it. She's still online but she's not replying on my msgs. What should I do? My really freaking out now! Dont know what to do.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dump her.
RangerMIke
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It's better that a chick is mad at you then if she is ignoring you. If she is ignoring you she doesn't give a fvck. Women are not like men, the fact that she is mad is a good thing. Sit back and relax, be patient. If she comes back, okay.... if she doesn't, so what... go after other chicks.
Sounds like you have both got stuck inside a power game.
Message her, tell her you really like her but be prepared to dump her if she continues the power game. Mind games are not a healthy way to start a relationship. Clear, honest communication is.
Message her, tell her you really like her but be prepared to dump her if she continues the power game. Mind games are not a healthy way to start a relationship. Clear, honest communication is.
lizardking82
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I don't mean to be rude, but you sound like a troll or you're really without a single idea as to what to do. I don't know which one would be worst LOL
Can you manage to stay away from this chick for a couple of days? Clear your head, I really think you need to do that.
Can you manage to stay away from this chick for a couple of days? Clear your head, I really think you need to do that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah right. She's like, pushing me away but she really doesnt want that. She told me not to message her again then now, she's the one who keep on messaging me now with random stuff. But I am just replying to end the conversation right away. She seems sad for what is happening. Im really sad that I have hurt her
Yeah then what?
lizardking82
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Stay in the present. Do not think "then what?". We can discuss that based on how you feel, but clear your head first because she;s got you all worried and everything.
Withdraw your attention. Do not reward her negative actions with more attention. Turn off your phone for the day and hit the gym, or do something that's gonna build up your self worth and stop you thinking thinking that you require this woman in your life to be happy and that there aren't hotter women out there that are attainable. Only have a small window of time to communicate with her and if it isn't worth communicating then don't communicate. Do the same the next day. Rinse repeat.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dustmuffin
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Do not tell her you like her. You are to invested in her plus very needy. I would ignore and move along.
How have you hurt her exactly? Sounds like she is hurting herself. Don't be sad it's not the end of the world. If you are meant to be with her then you will be in the end. True attraction has a way of making sure of that. There is one thing that I have always relied on with the experience of true love and that is you really don't have to work too hard at all for it. True love motivates itself and will get you in the right place at the right time and is easy. If that is NOT what you are looking for, then you tend to attract to you what you are giving out. So if its just sex you want and you have to lie and cheat to get it (not that I am saying you are) you will attract confusion and trouble if the other person feels misled.Yeah right. She's like, pushing me away but she really doesnt want that. She told me not to message her again then now, she's the one who keep on messaging me now with random stuff. But I am just replying to end the conversation right away. She seems sad for what is happening. Im really sad that I have hurt her
I don't see you as a weak or needy person. But you are confused and that is because you are thinking too much into it. You can only rely on what you know about yourself and play your own part, you can't play the multitudes of her part that your mind creates.
If in doubt leave it for a while, clear your mind and then look at the facts again.
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