Help! I don't feel like me , I used to be really confident have this on top of the world feeling. I use to not give a **** about what people thought about me and now on top of all that I can't talk to chicks. Can anybody help me get back to my old self? I feel like I don't have the will to do anything.Nothing feels right.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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- Thread starter JBozz
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
It's probably temporary. I have spurts of this feeling often. Go work out.
Jack Wealthy
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I do also. I recovered when I stopped comparing myself to the old me, people change. Focus on a new better you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Game isn't a hobby, it's a biological imperative.JBozz said:Soccer, chess, programming , and I game.
But aside from that, get more hobbies.
On top of that, weightlift.
Finally, just go out a lot. Not just to parties or women, just go out a lot.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
bullethead
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Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Chemical in your brain. He's right.JBozz said:Dopamine?
Your defeatist attitude is holding you back. Instead of saying "I had back surgery, I can't exercise" say "I had back surgery, what can I do to exercise?" (and don't ask us, I've got no clue, figure it out.)
Any desire to be musical? I had been trying to play harmonica, but diatonics are very limited instruments, its hard to understand theory. Working on piano now, hopefully I'll stick with em and be good in 5 years.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.