Help! I don't feel like me , I used to be really confident have this on top of the world feeling. I use to not give a **** about what people thought about me and now on top of all that I can't talk to chicks. Can anybody help me get back to my old self? I feel like I don't have the will to do anything.Nothing feels right.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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- Thread starter JBozz
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
It's probably temporary. I have spurts of this feeling often. Go work out.
Jack Wealthy
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I do also. I recovered when I stopped comparing myself to the old me, people change. Focus on a new better you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Game isn't a hobby, it's a biological imperative.JBozz said:Soccer, chess, programming , and I game.
But aside from that, get more hobbies.
On top of that, weightlift.
Finally, just go out a lot. Not just to parties or women, just go out a lot.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
bullethead
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Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Chemical in your brain. He's right.JBozz said:Dopamine?
Your defeatist attitude is holding you back. Instead of saying "I had back surgery, I can't exercise" say "I had back surgery, what can I do to exercise?" (and don't ask us, I've got no clue, figure it out.)
Any desire to be musical? I had been trying to play harmonica, but diatonics are very limited instruments, its hard to understand theory. Working on piano now, hopefully I'll stick with em and be good in 5 years.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.