Help! I don't feel like me , I used to be really confident have this on top of the world feeling. I use to not give a **** about what people thought about me and now on top of all that I can't talk to chicks. Can anybody help me get back to my old self? I feel like I don't have the will to do anything.Nothing feels right.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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- Thread starter JBozz
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
It's probably temporary. I have spurts of this feeling often. Go work out.
Jack Wealthy
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I do also. I recovered when I stopped comparing myself to the old me, people change. Focus on a new better you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Game isn't a hobby, it's a biological imperative.JBozz said:Soccer, chess, programming , and I game.
But aside from that, get more hobbies.
On top of that, weightlift.
Finally, just go out a lot. Not just to parties or women, just go out a lot.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
bullethead
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Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Chemical in your brain. He's right.JBozz said:Dopamine?
Your defeatist attitude is holding you back. Instead of saying "I had back surgery, I can't exercise" say "I had back surgery, what can I do to exercise?" (and don't ask us, I've got no clue, figure it out.)
Any desire to be musical? I had been trying to play harmonica, but diatonics are very limited instruments, its hard to understand theory. Working on piano now, hopefully I'll stick with em and be good in 5 years.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.