Help! I don't feel like me , I used to be really confident have this on top of the world feeling. I use to not give a **** about what people thought about me and now on top of all that I can't talk to chicks. Can anybody help me get back to my old self? I feel like I don't have the will to do anything.Nothing feels right.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
It's probably temporary. I have spurts of this feeling often. Go work out.
Jack Wealthy
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I do also. I recovered when I stopped comparing myself to the old me, people change. Focus on a new better you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Game isn't a hobby, it's a biological imperative.JBozz said:Soccer, chess, programming , and I game.
But aside from that, get more hobbies.
On top of that, weightlift.
Finally, just go out a lot. Not just to parties or women, just go out a lot.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
bullethead
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Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
Dopamine?bullethead said:Stop jacking off and watching porn. You will feel uncomfortable, but at least you don't crash from a dopamine release high.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Chemical in your brain. He's right.JBozz said:Dopamine?
Your defeatist attitude is holding you back. Instead of saying "I had back surgery, I can't exercise" say "I had back surgery, what can I do to exercise?" (and don't ask us, I've got no clue, figure it out.)
Any desire to be musical? I had been trying to play harmonica, but diatonics are very limited instruments, its hard to understand theory. Working on piano now, hopefully I'll stick with em and be good in 5 years.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.