"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Help with parents!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
They just met her; give it time. She will grow on them.
One day she will do something to earn respect in your parents' eyes. You're overreacting to quickly...
And you're only 16, parental consent with your girlfriend is not crucial. But, nonetheless, give it more time and things will work out.
Do not push it upon your parents. It WILL work out.
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They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your action is your own decision. But, listen.
They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your actions are your own decision. But, listen. They may have a valid point.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.
Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.
It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
splinterkb
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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your parents are people who took care of 16 years, fed you, blah blah blah
think about it
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I'll go with the analogy of Red Flags. Everyone has a piece of personality that raises a Red Flag. I need not explain what a Red Flag is. When parents don't like her, it's either because:
1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.
Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.
It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
To add, this is a little list of red flags. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30558