"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Help with parents!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
They just met her; give it time. She will grow on them.
One day she will do something to earn respect in your parents' eyes. You're overreacting to quickly...
And you're only 16, parental consent with your girlfriend is not crucial. But, nonetheless, give it more time and things will work out.
Do not push it upon your parents. It WILL work out.
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They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your action is your own decision. But, listen.
They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your actions are your own decision. But, listen. They may have a valid point.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.
Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.
It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
splinterkb
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
theory of knowledge
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your parents are people who took care of 16 years, fed you, blah blah blah
think about it
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I'll go with the analogy of Red Flags. Everyone has a piece of personality that raises a Red Flag. I need not explain what a Red Flag is. When parents don't like her, it's either because:
1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.
Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.
It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
To add, this is a little list of red flags. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30558