"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Help with parents!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
They just met her; give it time. She will grow on them.
One day she will do something to earn respect in your parents' eyes. You're overreacting to quickly...
And you're only 16, parental consent with your girlfriend is not crucial. But, nonetheless, give it more time and things will work out.
Do not push it upon your parents. It WILL work out.
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They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your action is your own decision. But, listen.
They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your actions are your own decision. But, listen. They may have a valid point.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.
Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.
It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
splinterkb
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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your parents are people who took care of 16 years, fed you, blah blah blah
think about it
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I'll go with the analogy of Red Flags. Everyone has a piece of personality that raises a Red Flag. I need not explain what a Red Flag is. When parents don't like her, it's either because:
1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.
Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.
It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
To add, this is a little list of red flags. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30558