hey guys. i go to a very small school(150 kids) and am/was kind of talking to this senior(i'm a junior). we have one class together. we were talking for about a month and everything seemed to be going good and then i just heard from someone she was talking to another guy from another school. we still talk but not as much. advice?????
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
...your point is?gijoe said:
Who cares if she talks to another guy? It means NOTHING. Don't over-analyze every situation and think your chances are ruined because she... *GASP*...spoke to another male human being!
Like really, I'm sorry if it was kind of harsh but honestly, why do people like you worry about the dumbest things? :nono:
Its been bugging me for so long.
All you gotta do is keep talking to her, make her laugh, tease her! Read the DJ bible and APPLY APPLY APPLY! Flirt with other girls, don't focus just on one person. Theres plenty of other fish in the sea.
However, don't read TOO MUCH. The bible is just a general guideline. Just get out there, experience everything first hand, and you'll learn oh so much more than reading some article on the internet!
Good luck bro.
Remember, don't over-analyze everything a girl does...EVER!
oh okaygijoe said:
Well you should be chilling with other girls too man
The fact that your a junior hanging out with a senior chick is pretty sweet! Good job!
So you must be doing something right, just keep doing what your doing, BUT amp it up abit and you and her might get somewhere
Like I said, read the bible and then apply it.
Good luck bro!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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bro....
FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS.
dont act like shes the only one.
your probably scaring her off.
do you drive??
if so...take some girl friends out on a night, play some pool, go to the hookah bar. hang out. take some pictures, post them on myspace.
show the world that ur a fun guy.
then text her like ONCE in a while to see whats goin on and if she wants to kick it.
just be a fun guy, that can flirt with other girls....
dont tell her to much to fast.
be confident.
DONT ASK HER ANYTHING.
tell her what you want.
"me and my friends are goin to the movies, you should come" - GOOD
"Wana go to the movies with me" - BAD
BE IN CONTROL
FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS.
dont act like shes the only one.
your probably scaring her off.
do you drive??
if so...take some girl friends out on a night, play some pool, go to the hookah bar. hang out. take some pictures, post them on myspace.
show the world that ur a fun guy.
then text her like ONCE in a while to see whats goin on and if she wants to kick it.
just be a fun guy, that can flirt with other girls....
dont tell her to much to fast.
be confident.
DONT ASK HER ANYTHING.
tell her what you want.
"me and my friends are goin to the movies, you should come" - GOOD
"Wana go to the movies with me" - BAD
BE IN CONTROL
Daniel1099
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if she liked you, she would be jealouse and want to get ur attention.
ur either being the AFC...or she plainly doesnt like you, or something that you have done, or are doing
girls want guys they cant have
ur either being the AFC...or she plainly doesnt like you, or something that you have done, or are doing
girls want guys they cant have