Ive been maching this girl for a little while just small stuff a couple texts and we spoke on the phone briefly. Anyway I started texting her and teasing her about sending me drunk texts, she laughed and replied that I wasn't the only one she was sending texts to. She must be teasing, but how do I reply, and keep my frame of greater value?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
help staying in frame?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I'd probably say something like "Same goes for you!" just tease her back. It will probably build interest with her because she'll realize you have other options and she's no big deal to you.
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It seems like you two are just joking around. It's not really a "frame of greater value" moment.
Just say "yeah I bet." And change the topic. Ideally change the topic to when she's going on a date with you. There's no bigger waste of time than text conversations. You want to show greater value? Show that you're too busy for that crap.
Just say "yeah I bet." And change the topic. Ideally change the topic to when she's going on a date with you. There's no bigger waste of time than text conversations. You want to show greater value? Show that you're too busy for that crap.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I would've wrote, 'nice! Bring her too! lol' ... then right away tell her where to meet you on ur 1st date. & not to look too sloppy
If u ignore it or make a big deal about it then that shows a level of care. which gives up power..
If u ignore it or make a big deal about it then that shows a level of care. which gives up power..