Ive been maching this girl for a little while just small stuff a couple texts and we spoke on the phone briefly. Anyway I started texting her and teasing her about sending me drunk texts, she laughed and replied that I wasn't the only one she was sending texts to. She must be teasing, but how do I reply, and keep my frame of greater value?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
help staying in frame?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RSanders219
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I'd probably say something like "Same goes for you!" just tease her back. It will probably build interest with her because she'll realize you have other options and she's no big deal to you.
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It seems like you two are just joking around. It's not really a "frame of greater value" moment.
Just say "yeah I bet." And change the topic. Ideally change the topic to when she's going on a date with you. There's no bigger waste of time than text conversations. You want to show greater value? Show that you're too busy for that crap.
Just say "yeah I bet." And change the topic. Ideally change the topic to when she's going on a date with you. There's no bigger waste of time than text conversations. You want to show greater value? Show that you're too busy for that crap.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I would've wrote, 'nice! Bring her too! lol' ... then right away tell her where to meet you on ur 1st date. & not to look too sloppy
If u ignore it or make a big deal about it then that shows a level of care. which gives up power..
If u ignore it or make a big deal about it then that shows a level of care. which gives up power..