L777
Master Don Juan
This is annoying me now, I can do 3x8 hammer curls with 15kg dumbells, but can do about 2 proper ones with 17s....whats the best way to increase, cos I've been stuck for the past 3 workouts!!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You should have that as a signature.Teflon_Mcgee said:Also remember, in the gym you can only cheat yourself.
there is nothing 'official' about them. you are still doing half the lift and you are not strong enough to curl up the weight from the absolute bottom, period.L777 said:You should have that as a signature.
Cheers for the advice man, never knew about official 'cheat' reps.
Warboss Alex said:there is nothing 'official' about them. you are still doing half the lift and you are not strong enough to curl up the weight from the absolute bottom, period.
to me, it's like a deadlift off the floor.. getting the bar off the floor is the hard part, so many people 'tap' or even bounce the bar off the floor on subsequent reps. it's the same principle here. will you be moving more weight? yes. will you get a growth response? yes. will you have as good a growth response as if you'd done it strictly? no way.
this is why I say lean against the wall when you do curls. no room for cheating.
Well, exactly.. you lean back against the wall SO that you can develop good form, and learn to curl without assistance. This way you learn to actually use the arm muscles more, so if in future you curl without the wall, it will be second nature to you.Teflon_Mcgee said:I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on this one.
Granted, I'm not saying use cheat reps on every set or everyworkout. But as a supplemental in your tool bag they can come in handy.
Also I have to disagre with you about standing on the wall. It's much better to develop good form while standing without support. This has been studied numerous times to show that stnading curls and shoulder presses produce better growth potential due to the increase in total muscle usage.
Much like the idea behind compound lifts.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Try some pull-ups & chin-ups 2-3times a week. You'll grow some solid back & arms.L777 said:This is annoying me now, I can do 3x8 hammer curls with 15kg dumbells, but can do about 2 proper ones with 17s....whats the best way to increase, cos I've been stuck for the past 3 workouts!!
Arnold used steroids, do you?Deus ex Pianoforte said:If I may just add something here, I hate to go against you Warboss considering you know way more about bodybuilding than I do, but cheat curls were one of Arnold's favorite exercises: http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/xrep5.htm.
do Arnold's whole routine while you're at it!Deus ex Pianoforte said:If I may just add something here, I hate to go against you Warboss considering you know way more about bodybuilding than I do, but cheat curls were one of Arnold's favorite exercises: http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/xrep5.htm.