Please help me understand the female psychology behind this. When i meet girls and we bang for a while , it almost always gets kinky, and fetishes come out as they get more relaxed. Thats all well and good but why do they always, always always comment .." You thought i was Vanilla when we met didn't you???..you thought I was innocent!! " I don't get it , happened several times. As a side note to this , what is the correct response to maintain a solid alpha frame ?? thanks
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Help me understand!
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Ignore the sh*t out of it. Don't feed her bullsh*t curiosity about how you see her. She wants to know your opinion of her and whether you do that kinda stuff with other women.
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You're already having kinky sex with this girl, your response to such a minor question isn't going to impact anything in terms of your frame. Your frame should come from the fact that you're already sleeping with this girl - you really shouldn't even care about this question or your response to it. It's harmless and they're probably just grateful that you escalated and she gets to have kinky sex with a guy that will push for it. Just frame it as an IOI, because it probably is.
Just tell her that all women are sexual beings and even if she looks innocent, you know that she likes to be kinky just like most girls. Tell her you knew she had a wild side that you wanted to unleash.
Just tell her that all women are sexual beings and even if she looks innocent, you know that she likes to be kinky just like most girls. Tell her you knew she had a wild side that you wanted to unleash.