Please help me understand the female psychology behind this. When i meet girls and we bang for a while , it almost always gets kinky, and fetishes come out as they get more relaxed. Thats all well and good but why do they always, always always comment .." You thought i was Vanilla when we met didn't you???..you thought I was innocent!! " I don't get it , happened several times. As a side note to this , what is the correct response to maintain a solid alpha frame ?? thanks
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Help me understand!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
HyenaPrince
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Ignore the sh*t out of it. Don't feed her bullsh*t curiosity about how you see her. She wants to know your opinion of her and whether you do that kinda stuff with other women.
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You're already having kinky sex with this girl, your response to such a minor question isn't going to impact anything in terms of your frame. Your frame should come from the fact that you're already sleeping with this girl - you really shouldn't even care about this question or your response to it. It's harmless and they're probably just grateful that you escalated and she gets to have kinky sex with a guy that will push for it. Just frame it as an IOI, because it probably is.
Just tell her that all women are sexual beings and even if she looks innocent, you know that she likes to be kinky just like most girls. Tell her you knew she had a wild side that you wanted to unleash.
Just tell her that all women are sexual beings and even if she looks innocent, you know that she likes to be kinky just like most girls. Tell her you knew she had a wild side that you wanted to unleash.