Please help me understand the female psychology behind this. When i meet girls and we bang for a while , it almost always gets kinky, and fetishes come out as they get more relaxed. Thats all well and good but why do they always, always always comment .." You thought i was Vanilla when we met didn't you???..you thought I was innocent!! " I don't get it , happened several times. As a side note to this , what is the correct response to maintain a solid alpha frame ?? thanks
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Help me understand!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Ignore the sh*t out of it. Don't feed her bullsh*t curiosity about how you see her. She wants to know your opinion of her and whether you do that kinda stuff with other women.
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You're already having kinky sex with this girl, your response to such a minor question isn't going to impact anything in terms of your frame. Your frame should come from the fact that you're already sleeping with this girl - you really shouldn't even care about this question or your response to it. It's harmless and they're probably just grateful that you escalated and she gets to have kinky sex with a guy that will push for it. Just frame it as an IOI, because it probably is.
Just tell her that all women are sexual beings and even if she looks innocent, you know that she likes to be kinky just like most girls. Tell her you knew she had a wild side that you wanted to unleash.
Just tell her that all women are sexual beings and even if she looks innocent, you know that she likes to be kinky just like most girls. Tell her you knew she had a wild side that you wanted to unleash.