Please help me understand the female psychology behind this. When i meet girls and we bang for a while , it almost always gets kinky, and fetishes come out as they get more relaxed. Thats all well and good but why do they always, always always comment .." You thought i was Vanilla when we met didn't you???..you thought I was innocent!! " I don't get it , happened several times. As a side note to this , what is the correct response to maintain a solid alpha frame ?? thanks