"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Help me Slide In This Girl’s DMs

nicksaiz65

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So I met this girl at a party last week. I know she was feeling me, she was feeling up my chest and everything.

So I slid in her Instagram DMs. She does hair, and I liked about 6 of her pictures. I was like “I see you with the locks!” She had done locks on someone’s hair.

She just responded “lol thank you.” What do I say? How do I transition into getting her Snapchat from there? What on Earth do I say lol?

And for the record, my social proof on Instagram is much higher than hers
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seriously? This isnt how it works bro.

You cant just take no action when you have the chance and then go social media stalker.

There is no way we can help you with this. You can help yourself next time by putting on your big boy pants and taking action to make something happen
 

nicksaiz65

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Seriously? This isnt how it works bro.

You cant just take no action when you have the chance and then go social media stalker.

There is no way we can help you with this. You can help yourself next time by putting on your big boy pants and taking action to make something happen
Yeahhhh I fvcked up lol. Always next time
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I disagree with some of you.

So he didnt try to jump all over her when he saw her out the first time. She is obviously giving him another chance to at least make a move by responding back to his IG message.

Just shoot her a quick message and check her interest level. Mention something positive from your experience around her at the party and tell her that you would like to pick things back up over a drink or three.

See what happens. Be outcome indifferent and make a move. The worst case that can happen is you'll be in the same position you're in now with no date with this chick.
 

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Skip the snapchat because I find it's a waste of time. What's the point of sharing 5,000 snaps of some girl posing with the dog filter on?

SnapC is just another way for girls to ego stroke 90% of the time.

Ask what she's doing at the weekend and for her number. Make very brief small talk first.

I've had girls add me on snapchat because "they like me" only for them to delete me after a couple of sentences of conversation. Add a girl on there once you're already in a relationship and you can use it to flirt.
 

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first of all - stop liking her insta photos like some kind of stalker.

tell her to come grab a drink with you and keep it brief.
 

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Skip the snapchat because I find it's a waste of time. What's the point of sharing 5,000 snaps of some girl posing with the dog filter on?

SnapC is just another way for girls to ego stroke 90% of the time.

Ask what she's doing at the weekend and for her number. Make very brief small talk first.

I've had girls add me on snapchat because "they like me" only for them to delete me after a couple of sentences of conversation. Add a girl on there once you're already in a relationship and you can use it to flirt.
Yeah definitely been there lmao
 

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Hm. The reason I asked this question is cause I thought that DM Sliding was legit a thing. Heck, my friend got his girlfriend by DM Sliding.

That being said, I tried to start a small conversation and got curved lol. It’s cool, it happens.

The best solution would be to get her number right then instead of fvcking up lol.

Also, just curious, what’s y’alls opinion on using Snapchat to text people over traditional text? I’ve gotten lays that way, but I wanna see what y’all think.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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