im a natural born in a conservative society. i look attractive and kinda look like a soft guy. this is what they say. one prob guys, i cant open easily, im an introvert or shy or low in self esteem whichever u say, i cant open myself easily so how can i open others, damn it? i have girls even hit on me but i cant act on that. i stay aloof from them at first and maybe this delay lets other guys take the chance. u know this happens only when i see a HB or a group. once i start im very good at creating a vibe and connection soon follows but the opening or transition is killing me. advise me! :crazy:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
Calm down and quit worrying so much. I'm willing to bet you haven't done your homework.
This is required reading for all new Don Juan's. I'm willing to bet you haven't read much if any.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Scroll down to the bottom of the page and click on then link that says "The DJ Bible" alternatively if that doesn't work.
Good luck on your journey bro, we'll be here rooting and helping if you need it.
This is required reading for all new Don Juan's. I'm willing to bet you haven't read much if any.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Scroll down to the bottom of the page and click on then link that says "The DJ Bible" alternatively if that doesn't work.
Good luck on your journey bro, we'll be here rooting and helping if you need it.
i got your remedy brotha. i want you to download unstoppable confidence by ross jeffries, this will help you act on all this. FOr a little inner game get david deangelo inner game dvds. the way you think is inside so changing up your software to pua/dj thinking.
p.s. take notes and do the excerises.
p.s. take notes and do the excerises.
thanks mates! i will check out the link, ya i need to change my circuitry to dj type.
do u guys think that as i m starting now, should i just focus on my body language while killing the need and stopping to look for a target for a month or so? but that would mean i wont approach anyone at all, does that sound good?
do u guys think that as i m starting now, should i just focus on my body language while killing the need and stopping to look for a target for a month or so? but that would mean i wont approach anyone at all, does that sound good?
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
No, don't stop looking for a target. What you should do is go to the other side of the spectrum. Everything is your target, make eye contact with everyone and everything, smile even if you don't have a reason smile!, talk to everyone. Yes work on your body language and YES destroy that pesky need. And remember, its all about having fun.
Have you looked at the DJ boot-camp? It should be on the other side of that link somewhere. Theirs life changing advise all over sosuave.com, absorb it all (be weary of whose advise you take on the forum). But the biggest part of success is getting away from your computer and actually DOING.
Have you looked at the DJ boot-camp? It should be on the other side of that link somewhere. Theirs life changing advise all over sosuave.com, absorb it all (be weary of whose advise you take on the forum). But the biggest part of success is getting away from your computer and actually DOING.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.