im a natural born in a conservative society. i look attractive and kinda look like a soft guy. this is what they say. one prob guys, i cant open easily, im an introvert or shy or low in self esteem whichever u say, i cant open myself easily so how can i open others, damn it? i have girls even hit on me but i cant act on that. i stay aloof from them at first and maybe this delay lets other guys take the chance. u know this happens only when i see a HB or a group. once i start im very good at creating a vibe and connection soon follows but the opening or transition is killing me. advise me! :crazy:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
Calm down and quit worrying so much. I'm willing to bet you haven't done your homework.
This is required reading for all new Don Juan's. I'm willing to bet you haven't read much if any.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Scroll down to the bottom of the page and click on then link that says "The DJ Bible" alternatively if that doesn't work.
Good luck on your journey bro, we'll be here rooting and helping if you need it.
This is required reading for all new Don Juan's. I'm willing to bet you haven't read much if any.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Scroll down to the bottom of the page and click on then link that says "The DJ Bible" alternatively if that doesn't work.
Good luck on your journey bro, we'll be here rooting and helping if you need it.
i got your remedy brotha. i want you to download unstoppable confidence by ross jeffries, this will help you act on all this. FOr a little inner game get david deangelo inner game dvds. the way you think is inside so changing up your software to pua/dj thinking.
p.s. take notes and do the excerises.
p.s. take notes and do the excerises.
thanks mates! i will check out the link, ya i need to change my circuitry to dj type.
do u guys think that as i m starting now, should i just focus on my body language while killing the need and stopping to look for a target for a month or so? but that would mean i wont approach anyone at all, does that sound good?
do u guys think that as i m starting now, should i just focus on my body language while killing the need and stopping to look for a target for a month or so? but that would mean i wont approach anyone at all, does that sound good?
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
No, don't stop looking for a target. What you should do is go to the other side of the spectrum. Everything is your target, make eye contact with everyone and everything, smile even if you don't have a reason smile!, talk to everyone. Yes work on your body language and YES destroy that pesky need. And remember, its all about having fun.
Have you looked at the DJ boot-camp? It should be on the other side of that link somewhere. Theirs life changing advise all over sosuave.com, absorb it all (be weary of whose advise you take on the forum). But the biggest part of success is getting away from your computer and actually DOING.
Have you looked at the DJ boot-camp? It should be on the other side of that link somewhere. Theirs life changing advise all over sosuave.com, absorb it all (be weary of whose advise you take on the forum). But the biggest part of success is getting away from your computer and actually DOING.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.