Listen bro, I'm not the weak one. I don't let people get inside of my head. I don't let people really get to know ME. I don't share my personal stuff with anyone, and I don't tell my business to people. I come off as a sort of "mysterious" type guy, but I don't try to be that way, it's just the way I AM. People try to get to know me, and it's hard for me to let them because I've set up a wall in my mind.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Help me get out of this situation! I ****ed up bad!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Haha, yeah. This is what I've been working on myself among other things. Problem is, talking about yourself and letting people know who you are is not a weak thing to do. If you can open up to someone, they open up to you. Obviously you use discretion.Jokerlsk said:Listen bro, I'm not the weak one. I don't let people get inside of my head. I don't let people really get to know ME. I don't share my personal stuff with anyone, and I don't tell my business to people. I come off as a sort of "mysterious" type guy, but I don't try to be that way, it's just the way I AM. People try to get to know me, and it's hard for me to let them because I've set up a wall in my mind.
As long as you don't tell them your secrets, you're pretty well secured in case things go sour.
You seem pretty focused with not being seen as having a weakness. I wonder why.
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Just be a friend, the more she tells you the less she has left to tell you she'll run out of stuff to say and things will normalize unless you want to screw her then go for it lol
I don't care myself. People can get in there as much as they like because I know I'll be alright and no one can control me anyways. You might want to work on that instead of getting all self-righteous here.Jokerlsk said:Because we all have weaknesses, and we are only as strong as our weakest point, so I don't like people getting inside my head
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LMFAO!Alle_Gory said:I have been around BPDs before so I understand they're not regular people. What is it you believe I am immoral about?
If you really want to get this girl to leave you alone, be nice to her. All the time. She can't stand it at all. Notice how you insulted her she clings to you and begins telling you all this crap? Exactly. Do the opposite and she will run.
You can say something like:
I really like you. You're such a nice girl. You're funny and friendly and I really want to be friends. I can't believe you cut yourself because you're really special and... yadda yadda.
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