"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Help me get better at online dating.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
marmel75
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Stop using Tinder and use POF and OKC. OLD is based on pictures, so make sure they help you instead of hurt you.
Ratiocinative
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Don't pay much attention to women with empty profiles and focus on ones with profiles you like. Sure, you'll get fewer numbers, but the numbers you do get will be women you'll have a high probability of having fun with.
Don't try and force conversation by asking a bunch of questions, it will flow naturally when she has interest. If you get a lame response don't reply. Maybe test her interest again after a week or two, but if nothing then cross her off the list. Less is more in online dating, the more time you spend the more you're just scraping the bottom of the barrel for women with low interest or who you aren't that attracted to.
You need to come up with some kind of funny opener that will get them to respond. Compliment them on one of there hot pics. Ask her to meet you for drinks.
Bible_Belt
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Roober
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-pictures are everything!
-comedy and sarcasm is very tricky
I have actually had the most success with coffee meets bagel, I think largely due to the small amount of matches they get per day. I have had 5 different women literally just give me their number saying "I don't check this app often, text me". Also, you can't send messages till your matched like tinder.
POF and OKC women can browse matches for hours and get flooded with messages. I hit those every couple days, but I really need better pics...