"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Help me get better at online dating.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
marmel75
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Stop using Tinder and use POF and OKC. OLD is based on pictures, so make sure they help you instead of hurt you.
Ratiocinative
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Don't pay much attention to women with empty profiles and focus on ones with profiles you like. Sure, you'll get fewer numbers, but the numbers you do get will be women you'll have a high probability of having fun with.
Don't try and force conversation by asking a bunch of questions, it will flow naturally when she has interest. If you get a lame response don't reply. Maybe test her interest again after a week or two, but if nothing then cross her off the list. Less is more in online dating, the more time you spend the more you're just scraping the bottom of the barrel for women with low interest or who you aren't that attracted to.
You need to come up with some kind of funny opener that will get them to respond. Compliment them on one of there hot pics. Ask her to meet you for drinks.
Bible_Belt
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Roober
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-pictures are everything!
-comedy and sarcasm is very tricky
I have actually had the most success with coffee meets bagel, I think largely due to the small amount of matches they get per day. I have had 5 different women literally just give me their number saying "I don't check this app often, text me". Also, you can't send messages till your matched like tinder.
POF and OKC women can browse matches for hours and get flooded with messages. I hit those every couple days, but I really need better pics...