"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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help me? bad at this texting ****

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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#1 Dont point out things. She knew that she didnt make it easy for you, dont point it out, youre lucky shes into you. Rather have a statement or such.

#2 No.

Basically, you're being afraid of any form of rejection here. You are not leading. Youre asking her to lead and that just doesnt work. She's into you so you should just meet up with her and seal the deal.
 

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Ok i'm thinking of saying "Let's meet up and you can tell me about these activities in person"
 

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Youre still not leading. Just suggest you meet up at time&place for whatever. No need to put pressure on her like that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Asking what to say won't help you. If your actions are not congruent with your words, you don't come off as genuine or sincere.

Say what you want to say, learn from your mistakes and successes, and repeat until something clicks.

Becoming successful with women is about trial and error, destroying fear of rejection. At my school I have a lot of friends that respect me because I can go up to groups of random hot girls that I've never met, have a short and sweet conversation, and leave with a number.

Trial and error.
 

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well she responded with "no I don't know you that well enough too tell you!"
 

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If you're not good at texting, then don't do it. Only use it to schedule dates and whatnot. If you want to learn to get better at it, just go on Chat Roulette, Omegle, or some other activity that requires you to talk to other people through chat.
But yeah, leave the small talk for in person. Phones in general that aren't used for making plans will kill relationships or any potential of one. :trouble:

But in the event If I encountered this situation, my exchange would of been a bit different.

Me: Driving a little fast in the parking lot huh?

Her: What can I say... I like to live dangerously

Me: There's a difference between living dangerously and being clumsy... Wear better shoes so your foot doesnt slip next time ahah

Becoming/acting indifferent/playful in this situation is your best bet. Right now, she's having her little fun with the "power" she temporarily has over you.

ediceneet12 said:
Ok i'm thinking of saying "Let's meet up and you can tell me about these activities in person"
That was a nice way to flip the tables. :up: Keep it playful until the conversation changes into your favor.

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well she responded with "no I don't know you that well enough too tell you!"
She didn't reject your "offer." :rock:

My reply:
Me: x place at x time be there

Setup up something is the point in my reply.

Doesn't matter what she says, just stop texting at this point and go to bed or something. If she agree's then be there if not then find someone who will.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alright thanks I saw her today and she wasn't as flirty as she was yesterday she was in kind of a bad mood and we were busy working on school work. I need to get this chick out w/ me 1 on 1.
 

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as said previously

Frayzer said:
My reply:
Me: x place at x time be there
put on your man pants and tell her. she is just a lil girl that is looking towards you to direct her. you wouldn't believe the success that will follow if you start to tell them instead of asking them.
and as far as her being in a bad mood the other day, what's done is done and if you are lucky enough to meet up with her again 1on1 all i have is one word for you and that is KINO it is your best friend and a close ally on the battlefields of puzzy slaying.
 

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oh thanks Stort lol I just found the first image sharing site that came up lol. and yeah you think it's possible she was just leading me on? she flirts with guys hard alot. I've seen her do it on multiple occasions.
 

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flirts with guys a lot? ... you mean being a female right? it is their nature to do so, they are social beings.

if she is still talking to you then go for one last meet up or date or whatever the hell you want to call it. buuuuuuuut ALPHA the hell up bro. if you bring yourself as a man instead of a boy and she doesn't respond well next her into oblivion and move on to the abundance of puzzy just waiting for you to come get it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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