Im a freshman in colllege, and i go to BU, which is a huge school of 20000 people. People in my school either go clubbing or go partying in frat houses and apartments that are not part of the campus. I get numbers no problem. My question is people dont really date in college the way the DJ bible talks about, so what some ideas for things to do to get things going? fun, action ideas are welcomed
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
help in college
- Thread starter Bigworm
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
diablo
Master Don Juan
How do people date, then?
A vast number of us on the forum are in college and this is the first I've heard of this being a problem... what specifically isn't applicable to people who are in our situation? Inquiring minds want to know...Go to parties, meet girls, bring them back to your room.
Intro to ONS: What Every College Student Should Know
Intro to ONS: What Every College Student Should Know
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
thax a lot for the link. I guess what im talking about is that u wouldnt tell a girl in college to go out to have coffee -- or go to an expensive dinner on the first date... and anyway those things come off as making u lame. u can hook up with some girls at parties but overrall if u want any quality girls is kinna hard without a plan of action.