Im a freshman in colllege, and i go to BU, which is a huge school of 20000 people. People in my school either go clubbing or go partying in frat houses and apartments that are not part of the campus. I get numbers no problem. My question is people dont really date in college the way the DJ bible talks about, so what some ideas for things to do to get things going? fun, action ideas are welcomed
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
help in college
- Thread starter Bigworm
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
diablo
Master Don Juan
How do people date, then?
A vast number of us on the forum are in college and this is the first I've heard of this being a problem... what specifically isn't applicable to people who are in our situation? Inquiring minds want to know...Go to parties, meet girls, bring them back to your room.
Intro to ONS: What Every College Student Should Know
Intro to ONS: What Every College Student Should Know
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
thax a lot for the link. I guess what im talking about is that u wouldnt tell a girl in college to go out to have coffee -- or go to an expensive dinner on the first date... and anyway those things come off as making u lame. u can hook up with some girls at parties but overrall if u want any quality girls is kinna hard without a plan of action.