Patrick124
Master Don Juan
so are u autistic? lol i love how people turn to blame diseases/disorders for their problems.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Only losers bring up something from over a month ago, you see, DJs know how to let things go.Originally posted by Patrick124
so are u autistic? lol i love how people turn to blame diseases/disorders for their problems.
Originally posted by Viper
Only losers bring up something from over a month ago, you see, DJs know how to let things go.
Shut up beezy. Don't talk to your daddy like that.Originally posted by Viper
You know what dude, quite, I don't need to hear your ramblings. If you want to accuse me of being a troll, don't do that sh*t in my topic, because I don't want to f*cking hear it.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Now, that's a nice reply.I've never freaked out over someone giving me advice, it's when people talk sh*t and critisize me about something they don't know anything about. Just like you are right now.
Believe or not there was a time where I actually use to not care what people thought, but because of my damn parents deciding move, things went downhill. Damn them, I had a lot of friends, a lot of girls liked me, most people, even those who didn't know me, thought I was cool, there was even this one girl that I probably WOULD have had a chance dating the next year, HAD MY PARENTS NOT MOVED(She even teased me, asking if I would be her boyfriend a couple of times)! This new school is just so different from my old one, it just doesn't feel the same, the types of people you find here are different, the environment is different, it's been very hard to adapt to. I don't know, something just happened when I moved, that set me off and ruined my self-esteem. My only connection with my old school, is that there's this one guy in my grade, who has a few friends that go there.Originally posted by Holland
Now, that's a nice reply.
But still, I think criticising is good, as long as it is positive criticing. I know there has been bad criticising in here too, you're right about that. But I still recommend that you're more open too some critics that you might not like to hear.
As for the topic of this thread:
I used to care about what other people think of me too. With me it was only in certain situations. Mostly at school and/or in places where I didn't know people that well.
The way I think right now is:
-These are people that don't or barely know me, so they aren't even thinking about me. I mean do you think something about someone who you barely know all the time, when you're in a pretty busy place? No, off course not, so you can be pretty sure, they aren't either.
-Even if there where a few off all these people that did think bad things about me, would they be worth my time over all the other people who wouldn't?
I'm going to try and reframe you:
Answer the next questions to yourself
-What is it exactly about them that makes you think that they would be thinking bad of you?
-Are you saying, that, if I would join wrestling tomorrow (note: I have never wrestled before, and know absolutely nothing about it), and I would have a wrestling day with lots of people, then they would all think I'm a loser for being a beginner?
-How does the actual process go, from them not knowing you at all, to -> them thinking you're a loser for being a beginner?
-Has there been a time that you thought that people thought you were a loser, but when they didn't (and maybe even liked you)?
(note: these answers are not to offend you or your thinking, they are to make you see things in another way)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
*claps*Originally posted by Viper
Believe or not there was a time where I actually use to not care what people thought, but because of my damn parents deciding move, things went downhill. Damn them, I had a lot of friends, a lot of girls liked me, most people, even those who didn't know me, thought I was cool, there was even this one girl that I probably WOULD have had a chance dating the next year, HAD MY PARENTS NOT MOVED(She even teased me, asking if I would be her boyfriend a couple of times)! This new school is just so different from my old one, it just doesn't feel the same, the types of people you find here are different, the environment is different, it's been very hard to adapt to. I don't know, something just happened when I moved, that set me off and ruined my self-esteem. My only connection with my old school, is that there's this one guy in my grade, who has a few friends that go there.
Thanks dude, I read over the advice and it definitely gives me a new insight on the thing, this is definitely going to help me fix the problem. Not really much more I can comment on as far as that post goes.
But yeah, enough of this whining bullsh*t, I'm going to change! As much as I hate to admit, the only person that's been holding me back from becoming who I want to become, holding me back from improving, is myself and I'm tired of holding back.
Originally posted by Viper
Believe or not there was a time where I actually use to not care what people thought, but because of my damn parents deciding move, things went downhill. Damn them, I had a lot of friends, a lot of girls liked me, most people, even those who didn't know me, thought I was cool, there was even this one girl that I probably WOULD have had a chance dating the next year, HAD MY PARENTS NOT MOVED(She even teased me, asking if I would be her boyfriend a couple of times)! This new school is just so different from my old one, it just doesn't feel the same, the types of people you find here are different, the environment is different, it's been very hard to adapt to. I don't know, something just happened when I moved, that set me off and ruined my self-esteem. My only connection with my old school, is that there's this one guy in my grade, who has a few friends that go there.
Thanks dude, I read over the advice and it definitely gives me a new insight on the thing, this is definitely going to help me fix the problem. Not really much more I can comment on as far as that post goes.
But yeah, enough of this whining bullsh*t, I'm going to change! As much as I hate to admit, the only person that's been holding me back from becoming who I want to become, holding me back from improving, is myself and I'm tired of holding back.
You know online test prove NOTHING right? Besides, there's a difference between just being paranoid and having the disease called "paranoia", it's much more severe.Originally posted by Indie
Sorry, but normal people don't think about that sort of thing that much and this forum is certainly of no use to you. http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
go on that website, and answer 100% truthfully.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lloooll I am Narcissistic and Antisocial heheheOriginally posted by Indie
Sorry, but normal people don't think about that sort of thing that much and this forum is certainly of no use to you. http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
go on that website, and answer 100% truthfully.
Wow im nothing. I think if you answered yes to enough of the questions to be labelled as something you probably have some problems. These questions are retarded. But i guess its not true so i really do have issues.. .Originally posted by Indie
Sorry, but normal people don't think about that sort of thing that much and this forum is certainly of no use to you. http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
go on that website, and answer 100% truthfully.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.