"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Help! I'm paranoid and care way too much about what others are thinking about me!
- Thread starter Viper
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Flabbergasped?
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KaminoSS
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Thanks for the support dude, but it just seems that nothings changing, even though I have a better attitude about myself, things pretty much seem like they've always been, but I'm going to change that, tommorow, I'm going to approach a random girl. But before I do that, my voice is silly as f*ck, heh, we had this movie project in class were we had to film and when my part came up, I heard how silly I sound when people hear me, my words were all slurred, the voice tone was goofy and now I understand how silly my voice sounds when I talk to other people. Before I saw myself on film, I always thought that people had heard my voice, like I heard my own voice, but yeah, heh, now I can see why people have always been calling my voice silly for all these years and if I'm going to be a Don Juan, I'm going to have to change that. I read Senor Fingers page on this, but I'm still a little confused on the whole diaphragm thing.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Reborn Don Juan
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It's a long-term process, change is, aye.
When I decided to get my shit together and actually risk making a complete idiot out of myself by employing the ideologies and techniques discussed in this forum, I thought I'd get laid, like, yesterday. Didn't happen, of course.
Don't give up, though.
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oakraiderz2
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Chapstick...various types of lip balm
Quagmire911
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Alot of people use vaseline for that kind of thing, you can get different types, such as just normal vaseline or, vaseline with aloevera, later
Quagmire
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Haha, you think my appearence was bad now, heh, you should of seen me at the beggining of 9th Grade, I dressed like a bum, only took showers for a week, always smelled, even though I wore deoderent daily, lucky these dudes inspired me to change that. But then as time went on, the dude that changed me, really started to p*ss me off, because he started talking sh*t and stuff, luckily he moved earlier this year. I've got some vaseline laying around and I'll definitely try using it on my lips tommorow. Also, I read something in the DJ Bible about chicks already having their thoughts about you, set, even before you approach her and I've had some pretty bad first impressions in the past and I was wondering, if a chick has a bad(Even if it is totally bogus), impression of you, how do you make her feel more comfortable? Thanks. I know it says not to write down your problems, but this is something I need to know.
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rowing_mike
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Nothing, but I don't have anything to gain either, I'm afraid that if I go up to a girl who has a bad impression of me(And who can blame me, I use to be a real weirdo), that lowers my chances of getting her. The fact that my gaming skills aren't too good either, doesn't help that, a typical approach for me doesn't get much further than this:
After that it usually doesn't get much further, because I just can't think of anything else to say.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Walk up to her, slowly and with confidence, then open like this:
(A quick tip, don't ever walk up to a girl directly from the front and position yourself inches away her face (don't do it from behind either, duh!). That will only create discomfort. Mystery has talked about this in one of David Deangelo’s videos, which btw you ought to check out.
Convo:
"Hey, you seem to be in a good mood bla bla bla"
Her: "yeah, I just did bla bla bla bla"
you: comment on what she did. Use C&F if possible. Go on from there.
When you talk to her, do it with confidence, let your voice be heard (literally).
Another convo example:
Scene: Library, classroom, cafeteria whatever. She's just finished studying or she's taking a pause.
You: "you look....like you've just studied...I mean really studied."
Her: "Is that so?"
You: "oh yeah...you've got that look"
Her: "look?"
You: "like you'll do something bad if you see another book... no wonder nobody comes around here (in a joking way)
Her: (maybe smiling, laughing, whatever) "bla bla bla"
You: comment on the bla bla bla.
See my point? Look at her when you approach and you'll most likely find something to open with. This way, you’ll get away from the boring chit chat **** (“what’s up”. nothing. “How are you?” fine. “What’s your name?” You’re ****ing boring Smith.
Good luck Viper.
anyway, being parranoid is just a fase, just test with it... If you wanna lose it, you have to try looking in peoples eyes, start daring to say more things, but try doing it step by step.
By the way, you're not paranoid kid, you just had a fear, but by not putting it aside it just grew, now its time for you to grow up, no matter the cost try to conquer it,
a way of trying might be this one:
- if somebody is listening to me, then if i think something stupid people would laugh-> nobody laughs... hell nobody hears is
- try to look youre teacher or something in the eyes
- try to talk more in conversations with friends
- talk more in general
- etc
good luck
B-Lemond
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Nice that you have the audio books and them on your ipod. That's good. I also recommend Brian Tracy's: The Psychology of Achievement. I listen to it a lot on my headset whenever I'm traveling or before I go to sleep.
I also wanted to comment on this:
with a quote from the beforementioned audio series: "If we try to make things in happen too fast, it'll create a crisis of stress in our lives. What we need to do is just relax and expect that whatever we want in our lives comes to us when we are ready for it."
So what you need to do is get ready for it and expect it and whenever you meet a new interaction (or an interaction you want to improve) in your life just try to make the best of it, learn from your failures and then get better and be happy.
As for your voice, don't care too much about it. Just make the best of it. Don't focus on it too much. I mean, when I first saw and heard myself on video I didn't expect what I heard either. It's just a little weird too hear and see yourself, but you'll get used to it when you see and/or hear it more.