Patrick124
Master Don Juan
so are u autistic? lol i love how people turn to blame diseases/disorders for their problems.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Help! I'm paranoid and care way too much about what others are thinking about me!
- Thread starter Viper
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Viper
Banned
Only losers bring up something from over a month ago, you see, DJs know how to let things go.
DogFashionDisco
Senior Don Juan
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Yep, you're a joke.
It's getting old man.
douche.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Shut up beezy. Don't talk to your daddy like that.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
OH WOW. I haven't been here in like, 3 months or something. And Viper's still here?
Maybe it hasn't been that long.
Umm, Viper...
Have you read Double your Dating by David D?
It's actually a really good book. You should invest some money, and purchase it.
Very useful information, like how to be cool, and enjoy life.
I benefitted from it a lot. You would too.
Maybe it hasn't been that long.
Umm, Viper...
Have you read Double your Dating by David D?
It's actually a really good book. You should invest some money, and purchase it.
Very useful information, like how to be cool, and enjoy life.
I benefitted from it a lot. You would too.
Now, that's a nice reply.
But still, I think criticising is good, as long as it is positive criticing. I know there has been bad criticising in here too, you're right about that. But I still recommend that you're more open too some critics that you might not like to hear.
As for the topic of this thread:
I used to care about what other people think of me too. With me it was only in certain situations. Mostly at school and/or in places where I didn't know people that well.
The way I think right now is:
-These are people that don't or barely know me, so they aren't even thinking about me. I mean do you think something about someone who you barely know all the time, when you're in a pretty busy place? No, off course not, so you can be pretty sure, they aren't either.
-Even if there where a few off all these people that did think bad things about me, would they be worth my time over all the other people who wouldn't?
I'm going to try and reframe you:
Answer the next questions to yourself
-What is it exactly about them that makes you think that they would be thinking bad of you?
-Are you saying, that, if I would join wrestling tomorrow (note: I have never wrestled before, and know absolutely nothing about it), and I would have a wrestling day with lots of people, then they would all think I'm a loser for being a beginner?
-How does the actual process go, from them not knowing you at all, to -> them thinking you're a loser for being a beginner?
-Has there been a time that you thought that people thought you were a loser, but when they didn't (and maybe even liked you)?
(note: these answers are not to offend you or your thinking, they are to make you see things in another way)
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Why are you so angry? Stop being such an ass and start to have fun. This sh*t has gotten out of control. I understand how you are irritated and insist that youre correct, BUT when everyone says the samethings about you there MIGHT be some truth and something you want to listen to.
Heres what you guys don't get:
By keep posting replies to this loser, you're only giving him exactly what he wants: ATTENTION. He craves it, he's starving for it. Every post you keep making fun of him only gives him more of an illusion that anybody actually gives a sh.it about his existance. He isn't looking for advice at all, he's looking for an audience to show off what an immature passive aggressive little fu.ck he is. Get it?
By keep posting replies to this loser, you're only giving him exactly what he wants: ATTENTION. He craves it, he's starving for it. Every post you keep making fun of him only gives him more of an illusion that anybody actually gives a sh.it about his existance. He isn't looking for advice at all, he's looking for an audience to show off what an immature passive aggressive little fu.ck he is. Get it?
Viper
Banned
Believe or not there was a time where I actually use to not care what people thought, but because of my damn parents deciding move, things went downhill. Damn them, I had a lot of friends, a lot of girls liked me, most people, even those who didn't know me, thought I was cool, there was even this one girl that I probably WOULD have had a chance dating the next year, HAD MY PARENTS NOT MOVED(She even teased me, asking if I would be her boyfriend a couple of times)! This new school is just so different from my old one, it just doesn't feel the same, the types of people you find here are different, the environment is different, it's been very hard to adapt to. I don't know, something just happened when I moved, that set me off and ruined my self-esteem. My only connection with my old school, is that there's this one guy in my grade, who has a few friends that go there.
Thanks dude, I read over the advice and it definitely gives me a new insight on the thing, this is definitely going to help me fix the problem. Not really much more I can comment on as far as that post goes.
But yeah, enough of this whining bullsh*t, I'm going to change! As much as I hate to admit, the only person that's been holding me back from becoming who I want to become, holding me back from improving, is myself and I'm tired of holding back.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
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F****** go for it, and good luck
Quagmire
F****** go for it, and good luck
Quagmire
Indie
New Member
Personality Disorder
Sorry, but normal people don't think about that sort of thing that much and this forum is certainly of no use to you. http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
go on that website, and answer 100% truthfully.
Sorry, but normal people don't think about that sort of thing that much and this forum is certainly of no use to you. http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
go on that website, and answer 100% truthfully.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
THIS IS WHAT I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU BABY!
LET'S DO THIS!!
LET'S DO THIS!!
Viper
Banned
Re: Personality Disorder
You know online test prove NOTHING right? Besides, there's a difference between just being paranoid and having the disease called "paranoia", it's much more severe.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
shadowfox
Don Juan
lol im histrionic
"People with histrionic personality disorder are constant attention seekers. They need to be the center of attention all the time, often interrupting others in order to dominate the conversation. They use grandiose language to discribe everyday events and seek constant praise. They may dress provacatively or exaggerate illnesses in order to gain attention. Histrionics also tend to exaggerate friendships and relationships, believing that everyone loves them. They are often manipulative."
"People with histrionic personality disorder are constant attention seekers. They need to be the center of attention all the time, often interrupting others in order to dominate the conversation. They use grandiose language to discribe everyday events and seek constant praise. They may dress provacatively or exaggerate illnesses in order to gain attention. Histrionics also tend to exaggerate friendships and relationships, believing that everyone loves them. They are often manipulative."
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Re: Personality Disorder
Wow im nothing. I think if you answered yes to enough of the questions to be labelled as something you probably have some problems. These questions are retarded. But i guess its not true so i really do have issues.. .
Viper
Banned
You know online tests prove nothing right?
tigre
Don Juan
bump!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.