"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Help, I'm caught in a delemma

Ringleader41

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Long story short, I have a 5 min convo with this drunk chick and she keeps telling me how hot I am and how she likes other body parts of me. Lets say she said this repeatly, but I leave and her friend tells me she was crazy about me and loved people of my race. I tell my friends what happened and they tell me I suck and that I should have gotten her number or something because I was in there, so they tell this chick to add me on facebook and she does. Should I even waste my time and what I do? I wanna get laid bros
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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OnTheWayUp

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How is this a dilemma? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by inviting her out for a drink.
 

Ringleader41

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Do I do it through facebook to het her #. What if she rarely logs on.
 

OnTheWayUp

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It's 2012, she's young... she'll be online. If she likes you, it really doesn't matter how you ask her out. Go for it!
 

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will it be creepy because it happened last week, but she sent the friend request yesterday. I think she remembers because of something I don't feel like explaining.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ringleader41 said:
Do I do it through facebook to het her #. What if she rarely logs on.
Ringleader41 said:
will it be creepy because it happened last week, but she sent the friend request yesterday. I think she remembers because of something I don't feel like explaining.

In case you guys aren't picking up on the routine, Ringleader is the type of troll that lures you in by asking new questions no matter how detailed your answers are.

I recommend ignoring him and focusing your attention on real posters who have real questions.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
will it be creepy because it happened last week, but she sent the friend request yesterday. I think she remembers because of something I don't feel like explaining.
If she's the one who sent the request then it doesn't matter how much time has passed.
 
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