"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Long story short, I have a 5 min convo with this drunk chick and she keeps telling me how hot I am and how she likes other body parts of me. Lets say she said this repeatly, but I leave and her friend tells me she was crazy about me and loved people of my race. I tell my friends what happened and they tell me I suck and that I should have gotten her number or something because I was in there, so they tell this chick to add me on facebook and she does. Should I even waste my time and what I do? I wanna get laid bros
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How is this a dilemma? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by inviting her out for a drink.
 

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Do I do it through facebook to het her #. What if she rarely logs on.
 

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It's 2012, she's young... she'll be online. If she likes you, it really doesn't matter how you ask her out. Go for it!
 

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will it be creepy because it happened last week, but she sent the friend request yesterday. I think she remembers because of something I don't feel like explaining.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ringleader41 said:
Do I do it through facebook to het her #. What if she rarely logs on.
Ringleader41 said:
will it be creepy because it happened last week, but she sent the friend request yesterday. I think she remembers because of something I don't feel like explaining.

In case you guys aren't picking up on the routine, Ringleader is the type of troll that lures you in by asking new questions no matter how detailed your answers are.

I recommend ignoring him and focusing your attention on real posters who have real questions.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
will it be creepy because it happened last week, but she sent the friend request yesterday. I think she remembers because of something I don't feel like explaining.
If she's the one who sent the request then it doesn't matter how much time has passed.
 
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