"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Face wise you aren't a bad looking guy at all. Good looking face, though if I were to be honest and I saw you walking down the street? I would think to myself there is a chance you are gay. You just kinda have that "look" to me. Plus, you are Asian, which at least in the US puts you at a slight disadvantage, even with other Asian girls, let alone white ones.

Hard to tell on body, looks like you may be kinda short? Height and weight?
 

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my ideal weight is 130-140 and i'm 5'6. So my look is not a disadvantage right?
 

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thanks for your reply. do you think i can end up with a cute girl? my previous and only gf was not very cute and I don't want to put up with that again. They don't need to be super hot but they do need to be attractive.
 

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ImWithTheDJ said:
thanks for your reply. do you think i can end up with a cute girl? my previous and only gf was not very cute and I don't want to put up with that again. They don't need to be super hot but they do need to be attractive.
Well if you are 5"6" then you for sure need to hit the weights and hit them hard. You are going to have to develop a strong, lean body to compensate for your lack of height.

But as far as your face? Yes like I said you have a good looking face, but it gives off a gay vibe to me. But, some girls like that. I would think you should be able to get a cute Asian girl no problem. A white girl? Will probably be a little harder to pull off. They don't usually go for the smaller Asian dudes. I live in the LA area and I never see it. See a ton of Asian girls with white guys though. And of course with other Asian guys as well.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ImWithTheDJ said:
This was my body a few years ago..

http://a6.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/photos-ak-ash1/v195/79/20/6012407/n6012407_37069232_8920.jpg

right now i'm f*cken fat! but i'm working on regaining my old self.
Hard to believe you could be fat, but I'll take your word for it haha. But yeah, you scream GAY to me. I know your not, but that is something you may want to work on. For sure by getting more bulk by heavy lifting, but also via your haircut, facial hair, etc. But I don't think you are a lost cause by any means.
 

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Lol, i figure i'm a good looking guy but just had to make sure that i'm not the only person who think so.
 

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yah, im giving myself half a yeaer time frame to get my **** together because right now i'm unemployed and fat so im a little bit insecure.
 
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